Letting go of Bitterness
Updated: Mar 24, 2021
"Bitter feelings allow us to become perfect victims, in that we no longer feel obliged to work toward healing."
It is natural to feel resentment or anger when life does not unfold as expected. We consciously or unconsciously anticipated one experience, and we grieve for the loss of it when the universe puts something else in our path. Most of the time, we work through these feelings and they pass. Occasionally, our anger and resentment do not fade and are instead transformed into bitterness. Bitter feelings allow us to become perfect victims in that we no longer feel obliged to work toward healing and choose instead to identify with our pain. Yet as unwholesome as bitterness can be, it is also a natural element of our emotional palette. When we acknowledge that it is okay to feel bitter, we reconnect with our hurt in a constructive way and can begin the process of working through it. The nature of bitterness is rooted in the fact that the pain we feel provides us with a rationale. We may feel that we deserve to embrace our bitterness to its full extent. And to be bitter is, in essence, to cut ourselves off from all that is positive, hardening our hearts and vowing never to let go of our hurt. But just as bitter feelings can be self-defeating, so too can the release of bitterness be life-affirming in a way that few other emotional experiences are. When we decide that we no longer want to be bitter, we are reborn into a world filled with delight and fulfilment unlike any we knew while in the clutches of bitterness. The veil it cast over our lives is lifted, letting light and warmth touch our souls. Divesting yourself of bitter feelings can be as simple as truly forgiving and moving on. Even when your bitterness has no concrete object, you can forgive situations too. Healing pain can be challenging but may be easier if you remind yourself that you are the only entity truly affected by your emotional state. In time, you will discover that letting go of your bitterness frees you to initiate the healing process and allows you to once again celebrate the possibility of the more wonderful life you deserve. HOW CAN THE TLC SYSTEM HELP YOU OVERCOME BITTERNESS?
We have a very powerful and successful sub-conscious technique called Negative Emotional Therapy. By going into your unconscious programming and beliefs we take you to the very first event you felt ‘bitterness’ and we release that negative emotion from the event, plus all the consequential emotional gestalts from your neurological system where you felt similar anger, hurt and bitterness. We elicit the positive learnings from the event (there is always a positive side to a negative emotion) and teach your unconscious mind to hold on to those instead so that your emotions are not sabotaged in the future by holding onto the hurtful consequences of the feelings of bitterness. You can then break free from the hurtful memories of the past, and you can build a vision for the future.